Learning To Apologize Better

Jan 10, 2017

It's a simple thing, really, saying "I'm sorry, I messed up."  Well maybe the words are simple, but the process stumps a lot of us. 

Walter Langley's painting "Never Morning Wore to Evening but Some Heart Did Break."
Credit Public Domain/Google Art

In fact, it's not uncommon for people to botch an apology so badly that the hurt feelings are deepened. 

Therapist and relationship expert Harriet Lerner explores the difficulty inherent in apologizing in her book  Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

Dr. Lerner documents the atrocities and guides us to apologies that really heal.